[My Master assigned another fascinating research topic and has allowed me to share my findings here. ]
What is cock worship?
Cock worship can be used to refer to a scene in which a submissive engages in a ceremony-like honoring of a dominant’s cock. It can also refer simply to the fantasy of worshiping/lavishing attention on the cock.
Too often women assume that a man just wants to be jerked off until he comes (or given a blow job to the same effect). This, however, is not the aim of cock worship; rather, cock worship, in its truest form goes beyond the specific scene, into something much longer lasting, more broad- reaching - it helps bring a man into his full masculine power, with the confidence to be himself, to bring his ideas into the world more fully. When his cock feels loved, he feels loved. The more open he feels you are to receiving his cock, the more open he will believe you are to receiving him. So, the goal of cock worship is to savour every millimeter of his cock. Trying to make him cum is not at all what the process is about, and may actually detract from your purpose.
How important is it in the dynamic?
Based upon my last paragraph, I would say it’s critical. Healthy dynamics function fairly simply from an external view - the Dominant takes the responsibility for and care of the submissive, while the sub renders much of her choices and decision-making to the dominant. A voluntary power-exchange. But to make the choice to submit to someone, to trust someone, she wants that person performing at their very best. For himself, and for her. If cock worship achieves that, increasing his libido, his confidence, his sexual power, then she absolutely would want this, as would he.
What is the proper way?
I came across something somewhat profound when i was researching. Juliet Allen pointed out on her blog, “How often does a man have the full presence of their lover worshipping their penis? In everyday life, not very often. Presence is highly important and absolutely essential when worshipping cock.” When I think of the word “worship” it does make me think of something sacred, of great import, and therefore being wholly present makes complete sense. Especially when you consider all the distractions that occur in our daily lives. So where to begin?
Especially if you have never done it before, start with a discussion. What are you each comfortable with in the scene. Set your boundaries. Set aside a specific amount of time, maybe thirty minutes to start. Set the mood, dim the lights, light some candles, lay out some beautiful pillows or blankets, turn on some quiet music, if you wish.
Keep it simple. Sit or kneel before your Dom, silently. Eye contact is essential of course. Breath deeply. Count your breaths if you need to, especially if you are nervous. Calm yourself. Being yourself into this moment. Watch and listen to Him breathe, the way His chest rises and falls with each breath. Feel the energy, the power of His cock. If this is His first time experiencing cock worship, He may feel nervous too, or excited, or aroused, or all three…
Be careful now not to lose focus. Don’t let your mind wander to that work issue, or your kids that are frustrating you, or that homework assignment you are stressing about. Stay fully present. Look at his cock. Keep eye contact, stay present and connected. Don’t lose your connection to him, yourself, or the experience.
Tell him what you really love about his cock. You still haven’t touched it with your hands, but your eyes have devoured it and now your words will do the same. Don’t be shy, be specific, and detailed.
Notice how he tastes and smells; it will differ at different times of day, season, etc. Tell him about it - how much you love his smell and the way he tastes, how much it turns you on. Embrace his uniqueness!
You have begun by simply gazing at his cock without touch. Then, when you are ready, ask his permission to touch h his cock. After all, if you are truly eating it as a sacred object, something to be revered, you would never just reach out and grab it without the permission of the diety or the one entrusted to safeguard it. Once you have his ascent, slowly touch, then massage, eventually kissing, licking and teasing his cock gently with your hands and mouth. Bring awareness and loving presence to your touch; experiment with how you touch, where, and in what combination.
Take your time, worship every single little inch - His balls, his asshole, his perineum, the base, the shaft, the tip, if uncircumcised his foreskin … worship his cock from end to end. You will both love the experience.
Don’t break eye contact as you worship. Your eyes will tell him everything he needs to know about your sincerity in worshipping his member. Don’t be afraid to tell him how much you love worshipping his cock, how much it turns you on, how much it makes your pussy throb and your heart beat for him. Communicate!
For that matter, don’t be afraid to ask him what he wants more or less of. What feels best, what he loves, what he desires.
Now, this all presumes cock worship is limited to a scene. Is it? Should it be? Truly, cock worship can be affected throughout your day; tell him what his cock means to you as you’re washing the dishes, tell him how much pleasure it gives you as you cook dinner. Tell him how much you love the strength, power, and love of his cock as you clean your room.
How long should a sub worship?
The key is to take your time. Don’t rush or hurry. You both may be nervous, especially if this is your first time. The biggest mistake you can make is to hasten through this wonderful experience. It can be for just a few moments, or if you have time and the inclination, an hour, or even longer.
An important concept is to treat his cock with reverence and respect. Honor him and it with every word, even when timing is off or schedules don’t match up.
How often?
Make time for his cock. Hold it, kiss it, suck it, receive it. Prioritise time for you and his cock, each and every day – if only for a few moments. It doesn’t have to be a full-on scene, but making that time will make a significant difference.
Is ball and ass licking part of it?
This is part of your boundary setting conversation. If both of you are willing to include one or both, then do. Don’t forget to reassess afterwards to determine what he liked and what he might like more of. If there is something either one of you simply can’t abide by, talk about it!
Should she swallow?
Since orgasm is not a goal of cock worship, this question is not relevant.
